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Some Thoughts on Death

I’m currently dealing with someone in the family who’s dying for the first time since losing my faith. It may be that this is so new, but having to continually hear statements like “it’s all in the Lord’s hands”… I’ve let them use their own means to cope, but it’s certainly not helping me deal with the process at all.

It’s also the particularly religious portion of my family who created a REALLY uncomfortable moment, which is related to the person who’s dying being an agnostic who’s stopped going to church for several years. In order to rationalize the fact that, according to their beliefs, they would be going to hell after they die, they made conciliatory statements in front of the person who’s dying like “oh, you never stopped believing in God. You just stopped believing in organized religion.” Thankfully, someone managed to quickly change the subject.

I’ve also thought how their approach to death is different than mine. I get a very palpable sense from them that they are angry at having someone taken away from them. I’ve been trying to think of this in the exact opposite manner: I was never guaranteed any time with this person at all. Any time I’ve been able to borrow has been a gift, and the time that I’ve been able to borrow is coming to an end. I believe that I’m never going to see them face to face again, but the fact that I have is something I should remember, and cherish.